Threads of understanding, woven into lasting change

Online counseling for couples and individuals who want better relationships—no blame, no shame.

Work with Andrea Shafir, LAc, MA-a certified Couple Counselor whose approach is grounded in Relational Life Therapy

The way we learned to love — and to fight — usually started long before we met our partner. Andrea's approach, rooted in Relational Life Therapy, helps couples understand those patterns and finally move beyond them. Learn about the RLT approach →

For Every Stage of Relational Growth

Welcome to Interlace Counseling International!

Whether you come together, come alone, or begin before your partner is ready, this work is for individuals and couples who want deeper, more satisfying, and supportive relationships. Healing and harmony begin when we start to see ourselves and our patterns clearly, without blame or shame.

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For Individuals Restore balance, self-worth, and emotional clarity

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For Couples Build trust, communication, understanding, and intimacy

Couples Counseling Without Your Partner When you’re ready to do the work, even if they’re not. 

At Interlace Counseling International (ICI), we explore how you weave in and out of your relationships. Sometimes the knot between you holds and supports. And sometimes it can tighten and restrict. Together we’ll unravel what brought you here, and learn how to stay both protected and connected.

Real growth begins with self-esteem. Without it, self-trust, boundaries, and connection can’t take root. Under stress, healthy boundaries can melt away, leaving us unprotected. And sometimes under “threat,” boundaries may become walls, preventing true connection.

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After years of helping couples with infertility, Relational Life Therapy (RLT) is the first approach I’ve found that reliably releases couples from their pain and disconnection.

~Andrea Shafir, ICI founder

Andrea takes the side of the relationship itself. During conflict or disconnection, we tend to focus on our own self-preservation. At ICI, couples master new ways of relating. As Terry Real, RLT creator and mentor says, couples heal as they “remember love.” Endless discord is replaced by relational joy as they learn to join through the truth, letting go of harsh, ineffective strategies and interactions.

Interlace clients are mutually empowered to weave a shared tapestry from two distinct threads, creating something unique and intricate that neither could create alone.

“Healing isn't about perfection - it's about process. This space honors the real moments, the pauses, the breaths, the shared understanding.”

~Andrea Shafir

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Testimonials

“I felt supported to fully show up and unpack. Having Andrea along for the ride, providing a safe space, ensures that you’ll propel in the right direction with zero judgment. You will always, with guarantee, walk away from the conversation feeling productive.”

ICI client L.T., 30 years old, married

“Andrea is the most welcoming, empowering, and reflective counselor. She creates a place of healing in our sessions, and I do not feel guilty or shame while exploring my stressors. Understanding has empowered me to choose growth.”

PW client M.G., 26 years old, engaged

Lets begin the work - together.